“Everybody wants to be somebody, nobody wants to grow.” ~ Goethe
Today I’m rereading a book that served as a lifeline for me in the year I separated from my first husband about a decade ago, “The Way of Transition: Embracing Life’s Most Difficult Moments,” by William Bridges. The book is filled with ah-ha-moment-quotes like the one above. Today, as I’m in the midst of another, more subtle transition centered around my work in the world and a more authentic, vulnerable, and impeccable way of living my life, I find the quotes and insights Bridges offers just as meaningful as I did the first go-round.
I didn’t really know much about the value of staying in the “limbo” or “in-between” state before I read Bridges’ book. In Western cultures we are mostly taught to jump from life stage to life stage, from job to job, from relationship to relationship, as quickly as possible. And if we can’t do that, we are urged to fill our transition time with escapism tactics like shopping or Facebook or working long hours or general busyness.
At this juncture in my life, even though it’s not always easy, I’ve found the strength to stay in limbo longer. To hang out in the murky, in-between places where what I don’t know about yet is coming ever closer to my circle of light. Where I’m invited to go exploring in the cave with as open a mind as I can muster. I have time to dig around randomly in the dirt to see if there might be crystals waiting. When I clean the dirt off the rocks I do some research to find out if they are amethyst, or quartz, or diamonds.
It’s messy, and many times exhausting, but usually very rewarding work to spend a lot of this inward kind of time “not doing much of anything.”
Today is a good day to choose to let go and let come…. dancing once again with the cycles of death and rebirth.
“Its beauty does not hide its flaws, its flaws do not hide it’s beauties.” ~ Confucius on the subject of jade